Oh WOW! - Medical Excuses for Not Being Sexual

by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker

No Sex for ME
Medical issues cause real problems at times for many people. These are real, severe problems that can make us feel like sex is impossible. Or at the very least it can make us feel like we are damaged goods. For some of us it has just brought on so much frustration or discomfort that the it just seems easier to do without it.

Honestly, I can understand how frustrating it can be with something that should be fun and natural causes so much pain and irritation that just not doing it at all seems preferable. I have suffered from food sensitivities for years. Trust me, there have been plenty of days I wished I could just give up eating altogether. It just didn't seem worth it! But of course, we have to eat to live, don't we? So not eating really wasn't an option.

Living Without Sex
Sex on the other hand, is something we believe we can live without. After all, many people go years without it and seem to function just fine. The problem with this is that apearances can be deceiving. Our emotional and physical well being suffer dramatically when we are not having sex on a regular basis. New studies reinforce the truth of the multiple benefits of having regular sex.

Is Having Regular Sex a Life or Death Matter?
Here's what Paul Ellis of 4menshealth.com discovered, "In 1997 an inquisitive British doctor published a study that followed 918 men between the ages of 45 and 59 for 10 long years to determine how sexual activity affected their life spans. Here’s what he found: Men who had two or more orgasms every week were half as likely to croak as those who averaged fewer than one orgasm a month."

Why Not Quit the Excuses?
Many medical conditions can cause you to have problems having sex. Being diabetic, having a heart condition, uterine cysts, fibroids, being on certain medications are all known to cause physical difficulties in having sex. Nobody should question that these are real problems, that is not the point here. The point here is that having these problems are not justification for simply denying yourself and your partner the joy and benefits of having great sex.

Don't Accept the Excuse!
Obviously you have to be empathetic to yourself or your partner for the problem, but it isn't a justification for dropping out this vital part of your life. Its just a hurdle that you two have to overcome together. There are solutions, even if the solutions require you to compensate for intercourse with other methods of sexual gratification. But there is simply NO excuse for pretending that sex doesn't matter. Clearly, it does matter, to your health, to your lifespan, and of course, to your relationship.

What do you think?
Am I off my rocker? Is sex not as important as I think? Or am I right on? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Comment below.

emotions | intimacy | marriage | relationship

Sunday, March 08, 2009 4:24:01 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)

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