Altering the Fear with Drugs; A Good Thing?#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Can drugs help change your experience of trauma? Oops, wait, does PTSD really exist? MPD? Gosh, so many of us are just stupid aren't we Paul McHugh?
Saturday, January 09, 2010 12:57:57 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Brittany Murphy's Tragic Death#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Anorexia kills silently, and its not the ultimate cause of the death. Usually it's something that has been lingering below the surface for years.
Monday, December 21, 2009 4:07:12 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Tough Times#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Times are tough. If we are among those who have lost everything we can lose our sense of our value. How do you keep it?
Wednesday, December 16, 2009 7:14:38 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Julie and Julia Inspired Me#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
The beginning of my 365 series of blogs. Can I do it? I don't know for sure, but I'm going to try. In honor of Patrick Swayze, and of course, Julie and Julia...
Tuesday, September 15, 2009 5:37:07 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [2]  | 
Women Perpetrators? Is it a far fetched Idea?#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Why do we have such a hard time imagining women as perverted sexual offenders? In our culture we are set up not to believe that women are capable of such horrors, but I think we are just as capable and just as frequent perpetrators as men.
Thursday, April 16, 2009 2:24:08 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [4]  | 
Domestic Abuse Myths#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Chris Brown beat up his girlfriend, Rihanna. The article on Newsweek's website today would have us believe that Chris is some kind of a monster. But is he?
Monday, March 09, 2009 10:15:24 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [2]  | 
San Diego Plane Crash Victim's Amazing Compassion#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
A young Korean man lost his entire new family in an instant and holds no blame or revenge for the perpetrator of the incident. What does it take to do this?
Wednesday, December 10, 2008 5:30:16 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [1]  | 
Dr. Phil, Please Get Some Help!#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Dr.Phil's "Retreat" exploits human tragedy for his own gain. Its unethical and immoral find out why I think so...
Thursday, November 20, 2008 12:40:34 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [5]  | 
Immunity for Abu Ghraib & Iraq Torturers?#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Torture is an inhumane practice and surely there are "criminals" we should prosecute? But wait, what it there is another perspective? What if we give them all immunity?
Monday, July 28, 2008 9:29:08 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Rape of Girls OK'd in Texas FLDS Case#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
CPS may have gone in under the wrong precedent... but isn't having pregnant teens who say they are "married" (illegally) precedent enough? There may be no 'bad guys" but there are clearly some victims here. I have a better idea...
Tuesday, June 03, 2008 8:10:39 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Is Incest Insanity?#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Is incest a reasonable insanity plea? When Fritzi's lawyer started to say he thought Fritzi was mentally ill it got me to thinking. Could he be right?
Monday, May 05, 2008 9:23:26 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [2]  | 
The Bizarre Enslavement of Elizabeth#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Bizarre and horrific behaviors have rational and understandable roots. Most of us don't want to think so because it helps us see ourselves as so different. But how different are we?
Tuesday, April 29, 2008 7:37:11 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
A Cult is a Cult is a Cult#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Cults can brainwash members into believing the way the leaders want the members to believe, and yet the members are as much "Victims" as the children they end up hurting. How can we sort this out and have empathy for ALL the abused?
Friday, April 25, 2008 8:31:34 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [5]  | 
Bloody Chicago#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
How can we explain the kind of bloody horror occurring in the streets of Chicago? Getting caught up in the Cycle of Egocentrism is a deadly business. Are we any different?
Tuesday, April 22, 2008 7:48:30 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [2]  | 
The Pope Owns Up#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Why is it so important that the Pope met with these survivors of the priesthood's abuse? What is it about this that makes a difference to anyone other than the affected, now adult, victims of the horror of sexual abuse by a priest?
Monday, April 21, 2008 7:02:47 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
The Dilemma of the Mormon Sect in South Texas#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Cycles of abuse continue in a hundred year old culture. Are we really so different in ours? In what ways does our culture repeat the cycles?
Sunday, April 20, 2008 2:53:42 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Al Qeada Doesn't Kill Innocents? #
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
In a typical self protector comment, Al Qeada's 2nd in command issues a statement that they don't kill innocent people. How can we make sense out of a statement like that?
Thursday, April 03, 2008 7:22:49 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Father Says Son's Killer is "Normal Kid"#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Jamiel Shaw, Sr's son was shot down and yet he turns to the community with a message of compassion. Could you do the same? Is this the right response?
Sunday, March 30, 2008 5:53:17 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Scientists Confirm Runner's High#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Is running a positive addiction? Are their positive addictions? What is the cost of addictions in our lives and in our society?
Friday, March 28, 2008 9:18:53 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [2]  | 
Can You Think Positive and Have ALL Your Feelings?#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Positive thinking training sometimes gets us to thinking we "shouldn't" feel the "bad" feelings and keeps us away from exploring our emotions. Is there a good reason to let ourselves feel that "bad" stuff?
Monday, March 24, 2008 6:09:45 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
The Spitzer Blame Game#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Playing the blame game in the Spitzer ordeal is part of the fun of the media frenzy. But what purpose does this serve and how does it help deal with the aftermath?
Thursday, March 20, 2008 2:26:24 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Potty Training Parents#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
"Potty Training" is what parents need, not kids. When we try to "train" our kids through manipulation or control what is it we get? Is the result what we really want?
Tuesday, March 18, 2008 8:52:48 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
The Problems of Our New Vets by Melody Brooke, Author, Conflict Coach#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
In the US we have not always treated our veterans well. How are our new vets going to handle things as they are today? How did we set ourselves up to view them the way we do?
Tuesday, March 11, 2008 9:49:37 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
CNN reported this morning that many of our water supplies are polluted with drugs they don't know how to filter from the system. What are the effects and what are the causes of this happening? We are always looking for drugs to medicate our way out of our pain.
Monday, March 10, 2008 9:03:00 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
England's Child Abuse Horror by Melody Brooke, Author, Conflict Coach#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Discovery of nightmarish abuse in England brings to question whether this happens in the U.S. It has been uncovered here, but then swept under the rug. What happens when we set ourselves up to look for "the bad-guys"? Is that what they really are?
Tuesday, March 04, 2008 9:10:48 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Domestic Violence and Men by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Counselor, Motivational Speaker#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
What is the answer to domestic violence? Is it locking up all those "evil s.o.b.s"? What if we, as women took our power back by not keeping ourselves stuck in the "victim role?
Sunday, March 02, 2008 7:02:08 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Martha Beck's article was right on but she missed some key points. Simply thinking positive is not enough to change the hurt inside that keeps us from being able to heal.
Wednesday, February 20, 2008 10:20:56 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
"Not the Steven I Knew" by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Jessica Baty, the girlfriend of NIU shooter Steven Kazmierczak says her boyfriend was not a monster and she still loves him. How can someone display such radical personality changes?
Tuesday, February 19, 2008 10:16:40 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [2]  | 
Split Illinois Shooter by Melody Brooke, MA, LPC, Author, Conflict Coach#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Kazmierczak Dissociatve?
The details about this man who shot 20 people and left 7 dead are beginning to unravel.  This mornings AP article talked about the contradictions in his behavior.  They sound, in my experience, very much like those of a Dissociative Identity Disordered individual.
Evidence?
Kazmierczak was hospitalized in the past, for what condition we don't know. One of the issues he dealt with is that he didn't like staying on his meds.  Many DID clients are mistakenly given anti-psychotic medications which cause them side effects and are inneffective in managing symptoms.  Voices that come from being split into alter personalities cannot be silenced by drugs.
Another issue he struggled with was self harm, a common symptom of DID.  Reportedly he was a "cutter" (someon who cuts themselves).  "Cutters" do this in an effort to manage internal pain. Our bodies release endorphins when we are injured and these endorphins coursing through our system relieve pain in much the same way opiates do.  This is one of the reason's it is so difficult to stop "cutters" from cutting.  It becomes quite addictive.
Kazmierczak's pain
Most of the people who knew him had little to say about him that sounded like he was suffering in any way.  They saw him as a nice guy, though some suggested he struggled with intimacy problems.  He had a girlfriend who reports say he sometimes engaged in physical altercations with, though it never involved hitting.  He would physically restrain her during arguments.
The night befoe the shootings he talked with his uncle making plans for playing a game of chess with him.  None of this sounds like someone in psychological distress.  Though there are reports of his possibly haven broken up with his girlfriend.
What could have happened to him?
It's doubtful that we will ever know what happened to him to have created the kind of turmoil he was clearly experiencing. Family's of these type of perpetrators rarely admit to having knowledge of their having been abused in any way. Why would they want to acknowledge what they might have done to contribute to these people's horrific behaviors?
Cho Seung-hui, the gunman who killed 32 students at West Virginia Tech, had sent many more clues as to his misery. He was reportedly on anti-psychotics and also had been hospitalized for mental illness in the past.  But his writings certainly indicated trauma history.  He wrote repeatedly suggestive statements of his having been sexually abused, and his intense anger about it. Could he have been split, too? It's not so clear with him since his behavior was more consistent with the profile of someone who would do this sort of thing. But he was certainly suffering from some kind of traumatic history.
Traumatic splitting
Traumatic splitting occurs, generally in childhood, when a person is subjected to some kind of traumatic incident that is overwhelming to the child. While the trauma is happening the child energetically leaves their body, looking down on themselves as if from above.  They then look at the child being traumatized as being separate from them, as if it were happening to someone else.  This kind of splitting, when it occurs frequently enough, becomes DID. At least, that is one of the paths to the disorder.



The faces of evil or the faces of pain?
Looking at these facese is spooky, perhaps because we know what happened to the person behind those eyes. But even without having known what these men did, we could easily see that something is missing in their eyes. Could it be dissociation? Could these hollow expressions carry the blankness of one's mind being split so completely as to carry out such horrific behaviors? Let me know what you think when you see these faces.  Could this kind of pain be behind the attacks? Comment below.



Sunday, February 17, 2008 10:17:20 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [1]  | 
Patty Hearst Wins at Westminster! by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Speaker, Author#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Good for Patty! She has overcome a horror that is surreal and now look at her. What makes personalities split like hers, like Herschel Walker and others?
Tuesday, February 12, 2008 9:51:30 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
My Article on Helium.com by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Author, Speaker#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Melody's article is available on today front page of Helium.com. Check it out. It's relevent to PTSD and Veterans.
Monday, February 11, 2008 3:53:19 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Blame seems to have started this tragedy, and it appears to be the defenses case as well. What does blame do and why do we engage in it?
Friday, February 08, 2008 8:29:23 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
My Take on Britney Spears by Melody Brooke, MA, Author, Speaker, Relationship Coach#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
The different sides of Britney appear as a consistent set of roles typical to Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). Does she have this disorder? Is she that different, in some ways, from the rest of us?
Thursday, February 07, 2008 10:00:44 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [3]  | 
Man Stomped Baby to Death a Monster?#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
When someone does something this horrific how do we respond? Do we think of them as a monster and have no empathy? What really happened to this man?
Tuesday, February 05, 2008 10:54:27 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Suicide Rate Up Among Soldiers in 2007#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Vets suffering from PTSD often return home in terrible shape and little support, resulting in abhorrent behavior. They attempt suicide, they beat their wives and their children, and are generally violent and angry. What happens if someone else has these behaviors? Could we consider that they may be in pain too?
Sunday, February 03, 2008 7:07:26 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Get Brittney Some Real Help!#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Will someone please help this girl? Her behavior indicates someone in real trouble, most likely Dissociative Identity Disorder. What causes this and what needs to happen?
Thursday, January 31, 2008 10:35:15 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Cat Finds Child Porn#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Awesome cat finds a huge stash of child pornography. What about the kids? What happened to them and does anyone believe them? Maybe now they will. My model helps us understand both perpetrator and the victims.
Sunday, January 27, 2008 10:19:03 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [2]  | 
Has Dr. Phil Gone Too Far?#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Dr. Phil showed up without an invitation to Brittney's hospital room. What was he thinking? Brittney needs more than his "tough love" approach can offer. I think he is over his head.
Tuesday, January 22, 2008 10:19:41 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Madeleine's Gone#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Is it okay to leave a child alone, even if everyone else does it. In Europe this is an accepted norm. We may find it odd, but it's normal there. Is "normal' what we should aspire to? What about the realities of what happens to a child as a result of our following the "norm"?
Sunday, January 20, 2008 12:11:11 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Herschel Walker Breaking Free#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Dissociative Identity Disorder is thought of as a rare condition. There are a lot of misunderstandings about the disorder and a lot of myths people believe to be facts. As an expert in the disorder I have some different takes on the whole issue.
Saturday, January 19, 2008 9:51:40 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
Dr. Phil Needs Help#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Dr. Phil went to visit Brittney in the hospital without the invitation of anyone. What does he think he is doing? Does he really think his "tough love" approach is going to help her? The kind of help she needs is beyond his reach.
Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:16:11 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [0]  | 
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Altering the Fear with Drugs; A Good Thing?
Brittany Murphy's Tragic Death
Tough Times
Julie and Julia Inspired Me
Women Perpetrators? Is it a far fetched Idea?
Domestic Abuse Myths
San Diego Plane Crash Victim's Amazing Compassion
Dr. Phil, Please Get Some Help!
Immunity for Abu Ghraib & Iraq Torturers?
Rape of Girls OK'd in Texas FLDS Case
Is Incest Insanity?
The Bizarre Enslavement of Elizabeth
A Cult is a Cult is a Cult
Bloody Chicago
The Pope Owns Up
The Dilemma of the Mormon Sect in South Texas
Al Qeada Doesn't Kill Innocents?
Father Says Son's Killer is "Normal Kid"
Scientists Confirm Runner's High
Can You Think Positive and Have ALL Your Feelings?
The Spitzer Blame Game
Potty Training Parents
The Problems of Our New Vets by Melody Brooke, Author, Conflict Coach
Pharmaceuticals Polluting Our Water? By Melody Brooke, Author, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
England's Child Abuse Horror by Melody Brooke, Author, Conflict Coach
Domestic Violence and Men by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Counselor, Motivational Speaker
If it Were Only So Simple, Martha Beck! by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Motivational Spaker
"Not the Steven I Knew" by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker
Split Illinois Shooter by Melody Brooke, MA, LPC, Author, Conflict Coach
Patty Hearst Wins at Westminster! by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Speaker, Author
My Article on Helium.com by Melody Brooke, Conflict Coach, Author, Speaker
Who is to Blame in this 7 Year Olds Death? by Melody Brooke, Author. Speaker, Relationship Coach
My Take on Britney Spears by Melody Brooke, MA, Author, Speaker, Relationship Coach
Man Stomped Baby to Death a Monster?
Suicide Rate Up Among Soldiers in 2007
Get Brittney Some Real Help!
Cat Finds Child Porn
Has Dr. Phil Gone Too Far?
Madeleine's Gone
Herschel Walker Breaking Free
Dr. Phil Needs Help
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